ADHD Junk Drawer: I Read My Bad Reviews, Late Diagnosis Grief, and When You Forget to Take Your ADHD Medication #213

 
 

What does the inside of your kitchen junk drawer look like?  

And why is it always in the kitchen? 

We all have a random smattering of ideas laying around and today I’m sharing a few that wouldn’t necessarily make a whole episode in and of themselves, so I’m combining these random thoughts rattling around my brain into one Junk Drawer episode. 

First, we cover a few questions around ADHD medications with some crowdsourced helpful tips on how to find medicine with shortages happening everywhere, as well as what it feels like when I forget to take my medicine (a clear indicator towards it not being addictive when you use it as prescribed).

We’re also talking about emotions surrounding a late ADHD diagnosis, exploring feelings of frustration and grief while questioning if things would have been different had we known earlier? Shout-out to listener Sara, who suggested this topic!

Then, I’m celebrating our amazing sponsors: Skylight Calendars, Calm Strips, and Time Timers, who believe in our mission and help keep this podcast free for you. I’m so thankful to be working with great companies who are amplifying our goal of sharing quality ADHD info in the world. You’ll only hear recommendations for great products that I love and use myself. 

Finally, I’m wrapping up by courageously reading some of my bad reviews (yikes!), an experience that can be both daunting and enlightening. Here’s how I deal with negative feedback and RSD, and still choose to share so much of myself online.

Let's dive into this "ADHD Junk Drawer" together!

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Patricia Sung  00:02

Are you overwhelmed by motherhood and barely keeping your head above water? Are you confused and frustrated by how all the other moms make it look so easy. You can figure out how to manage the chaos in your mind, your home, or your family. I get your mama, parenting with ADHD is hard. Here is your permission slip to let go of the Pinterest worthy visions of organization and structure fit for everyone else. Let's do life like our brains do life creatively, lovingly, and with all our might. When we embrace who we are and how our brains work, we can figure out how to live our lives successfully, and in turn, lead our families well, at the end of the day, we just want to be good moms. but spoiler alert, you are already a great mom. ADHD does not mean you're doomed to be a hot mess mama, you can rewrite your story from shame spiral to success story. And I'll be right here beside you to cheer you on. Welcome to Motherhood in ADHD.

 Patricia Sung  01:08

Hey there successful mama. It's your friend Patricia Sung. Well, today I'm doing something a little bit different. I'm calling this episode the junk drawer episode because I've got a bunch of random topics that I've been wanting to talk to you about. But I don't really know if they're like a full episode worth of information. And I was inspired by my business coach Tracy Stinger, she was on episode 165. If you want to check her out, we've been looking at like all the ways to make my business simpler and easier. And she calls it more Patricia like how do we make this more Patricia. And one of the things that she does is she hosts a junk drawer session where you like, bring your random problems and sort them out and like figure out like, what's floating around these things are like, I don't know what to do with us. As we all know, our junk drawer is like full of the things that we're like, Hey, I might need this later.

 Patricia Sung  01:56

Let me stick it over here. So it's not laying around. But also like, I don't want to see it. But I do want to see it. But I needed to unit. I don't know, do I really need it. Like, all these things are like floating around or like, I'm not ready to get rid of it. But I also like don't really know where this goes. That's what we're doing today. So we're having this episode of like, here's a bunch of random topics that I've been wanting to talk to you about. Don't think it's a whole episode worth of discussion. But it may turn out to be like, you might like Patricia to tell more on this subject. I don't know, let me know what you think. But these are some of the things have been floating around my brain. So let's jump in.

 Patricia Sung  02:30

First topic is ADHD medicine. I got two things on this. Number one, it really gets under my skin. When I'm in different Facebook groups, the first thing I see people post is how do I treat my ADHD without medicine, I want to do something natural. And I'm like, oh, you're the people with the natural thing. Look, I get it, we don't want to take more medicine, I don't want to take medicine, like I'm sure you can hear in my voice, I have a sinus infection. I have put off recording this thinking I'm gonna get better. I've taken all the supplements, I have done all the sinus rinses and sleeping like I'm doing all the things I should and it's not working. Finally it broke down and went to the doctor and got an antibiotic, it still has not kicked it, I gotta go back to the doctor. But like I get it, we don't want to take more medicine if we don't have to. Right. But like, taking medicine is like the most proven way to help you the fastest. And most like the most efficacy. If it works for you, it doesn't work for everybody, I get it. But when we start from this place of I don't want to take medicine, if I don't have to a lot of times we end up in a bigger problem. I eat me with a sinus infection three weeks later, like if I had just gone to the beginning and taking the antibiotic, I probably wouldn't be the sick still, like almost a month later.

 Patricia Sung  03:46

But like I was trying to do it on my own and didn't work. And to be able to uphold certain standards in current society. Like, sometimes we need help. And it's okay that we need help. It is alright to ask for help. When we take our medicine, it doesn't have to be forever. And I have a whole series on medicine. Like you can go back and listen to it. It's episode 142 to 147 interviewed some great experts, we go through all kinds of info and medicine. So I'm not going to go through them all here because I mean, literally, it was like six episodes of stuff, right? But if like the point is like we're suffering, or our kids are suffering, like let's jump in and do the thing that we know is going to help the quickest and the fastest. And this is not a forever decision. You don't have to take medicine forever. So I know that a lot of that is based in fear of like, I'm scared of what's gonna happen like it's for me with the antibiotic. It was like I just fixed my gut. It's finally working correctly. Like I don't want to throw in a thing that's gonna go in there and kill a bunch of stuff like, oh, I don't want to do this. And you know what should have just done in the first place, but he didn't listen to myself and my own advice. And we end up with a bigger problem later. So like Wonder kids are really struggling in school. Like the reason parents are coming to the Facebook group and saying I need help but I don't want to take medicine. What am I Other options is because their kids really struggling. So at that point, it's like triage. Well, what's the most important thing? Like,

 Patricia Sung  05:05

let's pick the thing that's going to make the most difference the fastest. And that's medicine. Do we wish it was something else? Sure we do. But here we are, this is the reality. So I know that a lot of that's based in fear. That's why I did whole six episodes for about it. But what I want to emphasize here is that when you take the medicine that fits you best, you're not turning into a different person, you're not turning into a zombie. It's like, I notice a difference. But like, clearly not as much of a difference as one would think. Because every time I forget to take my medicine, I don't realize that I forgot to take my medicine. I'm just like, man today is really hard. I'm feeling really stressed and feeling kind of anxious, like, oh, man, I started doing this. And then I like wandered off and started doing this thing, and then started doing that thing and never circled back to the first thing. And all of these, like, all the way the day feels hard. But it new point. In my life, I think I forgot my medicine. On the days that I actually forgot my medicine. There's been plenty of days where I'm like, Man, today's really hard day did I forget to take my medicine. And I go and look and I took it. But on every single day that I have forgotten to take my medicine, which thankfully has not been that many, I would say probably three times in the last six months. At no point in the day did I think maybe I didn't take my medicine today.

 Patricia Sung  06:24

Zero point. It's not until I'm getting ready for bed. And I seem a little pillbox with the days of the week and see Whoa, there is medicine still in my box today that I'm like, Ah, that's why today was so hard because they didn't take my medicine. So when you find the right medicine for you, it's almost like you didn't realize that you missed like, like, you know the difference, you feel the difference. If you're trying out medicines and you don't feel the difference. And it's not the right medicine for you. Like you'll notice the difference when you're on it. But also like on the day where I'm just me and forgot to take my medicine. I am not craving the medicine. At no point did I even notice that I didn't take the medicine like this is my emphasis on like, you will be okay to try it out one time give it a whirl, see what happens. But unfortunately, at no point while I remember that I didn't take my medicine on the day that it didn't take my medicine. So no, I'm not addicted to my stimulant because I can't even remember they didn't take it. Okay. That's that's Topic number one. But tip number two about medicine. A lot of us are having trouble or you know, finding medicine, which totally stinks and it's really frustrating. There have been multiple recalls and issues with supply chain and like now it's affecting non stimulants along with the stimulant it's just a mess.

 Patricia Sung  07:35

So offering a few good pieces of advice that I have heard from different folks along the way on what's helped them find medicine, because a lot of you are making like 15 phone calls to 73 busily in pharmacies trying to find the medicine and here's what I have gathered from the masses and what's helped me advice number one is a paradoxical hyperbole. Opposites. I know y'all still feel a lot of snot here. So bear with me. It's conflicting advice. conflicting advice. Some people said that it is easier if you find a pharmacy that's in a large network because they can see which pharmacies habit. Now this offload, it depends on the pharmacist that you're talking to, as to how much information you'll get. So when you call about your medicine, if you're calling about a stimulant, because those are controlled substances, you need to make sure that you speak with the pharmacist and not one of the pharmacist techs, the pharmacist techs cannot see the same information that a pharmacist can see.

 Patricia Sung  08:32

So make sure that you're speaking to the actual pharmacist. And in a large group, some of them some of the companies can see like, hey, maybe we don't have it, but what if this other one has it? Now, they may or may not be able to see that and they may or may not give you that information. But some people have said it's worth asking, like, Okay, if you don't have this medicine stock, is there a location nearby, sometimes they will tell you if another location nearby has it, or that they can get it from that other location. The conflicting advice is that I've also heard a lot of people say the best way to go is like a smaller like Mom and Pop kind of pharmacy, because they're not competing with the big network and they'll be able to get their medicine and there's not as like many people pulling at it piece of advice.

 Patricia Sung  09:12

Number three is to call the pharmacy, speak with the pharmacist, not a pharmacy tech and ask them what medicines they have available. Which I know that for pharmacists are getting a lot of flack so some of them won't share this now because it's like they'll say they have something and then by the time your like prescription comes in, they don't have any more because somebody else came and got it. But it's worth asking, like, What things do you have in stock and then checking with your doctor to see like if you're taking say the generic of this thing, like if there's another similar generic like what are your options, like sometimes gathering all that information ahead of time and then bringing that to your doctor and saying my pharmacy says they have this, this and this or any of those suitable substitutes for what I am usually taking. But again, it's I mean the pharmacists are getting lean number You heard here and I feel bad for them too. It's making their job really hard also. But honestly, I would say like, advice.

 Patricia Sung  10:06

 Number four, the best thing that's worked for me is just making friends with the pharmacist. And like being super kind, and like building a relationship with the pharmacist so that they know who you are. So when you call, they're like, oh, right, I remember Patricia with her blue hair. And like, she's always nice to me, like, like they know roughly when your medicine comes in every, you know, 2030 days, that they can help you figure out how to do it, and like be on your side and help you out if there's any way that they can. That's the best advice that I can give out of all of them. There's a lot of things we can't control. But we can't control being kind to the pharmacist, and hopefully they can help you out and will help you maybe they don't have the thing you need. But they can help you figure out how to get the thing you need. If you build that relationship, so that would be my best advice on that one. Okay, so that was three random juncture, thoughts on medicines and pharmacies and what have you.

 Patricia Sung  11:05

Unrelated item number four is that you may have noticed last episode, we had a sponsor for the very first time. And I want to say thank you so much to we have three different companies that we're working with right now who have supported either the retreat or the podcast, or both. And wow, like, thank you so much for supporting the work that we're doing here. Like, I think it's so cool. Number one, that we have enough moms listening to the podcast now that we can have sponsors. And number two, like how cool is it that other companies are coming along and like joining in this mission to support like getting quality information out there? I so hope that you will check out these different sponsors like these are all companies that I thoroughly believe in, I have had requests for like, I mean, over a year of different companies to sponsor the podcast, and it was things that I'm like, Um, no, no, thank you. Like, I am definitely not going to promote your, whatever random supplement or whatever I'm not, no, I'm not doing it.

 Patricia Sung  12:07

I will not take money from companies that I don't believe in. And I won't promote them on here. And so I want you to know that the companies that are supporting the podcast are companies that I thoroughly believe in, like right now we're working with three, we're working with Skylight Xalendars, which our family has used for over a year, the photo calendar for grandpa, and he gets pictures of all the grandkids all year long. And then I've been using the Skylight Calendar here with my family for several months. And it's been a huge help keeping everybody like on track and like everyone's on the same page. It's been awesome. We're also working with chrome strips, which is an amazing company that is helping both kids and adults with their anxiety. It's a great fit for school like such an awesome company. And then time timers sponsored their retreat in I have used a Time Timer I use in my classroom back when I was teaching my first time timer like if sadly it died. But it was like 13 or 15 years old when it finally died and like had injured many years in a middle school classroom. So like, these are quality products that I love in use myself. And I feel so grateful knowing that hey, like I can do so much more with the support of these companies who are also ADHD friendly. Because while the podcast is free for you, it's definitely not free for me like I'm supporting my team in you know, I'm paying my editor and my team to post it and to check all of the files and make sure everything's uploaded and send the emails like I write everything, and I make everything but I have other people helping me get it out into the world.

 Patricia Sung  13:43

And like thank you that you are supporting these companies who are supporting us so that I can continue to give the podcast for free and I can support my team and they can pay their bills and continued this great work that we're doing like I'm just super thankful. And knowing that like they're here with us and trying to spread the quality information and just really grateful like super, super thankful and I hope that you will support them as well as we move forward and work with other companies who are quality folks that are doing great things in the world. So check out our three sponsors and support them like these are all super cool things for ADHD families. Before we continue on, I want to say thank you to our sponsors whose support allows me to bring you this podcast for free. I have reduced the mental load as a mom by using the skylight calendar. Over the last few months. It has been in our kitchen with adorable pictures of our family and our family calendar. So this keeps me from being the gatekeeper. I love that it is visual color coded.

 Patricia Sung  14:49

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 Patricia Sung  15:38

There's like a lot of grief and anger and all that you have to sort through that grief can be really hard to sort through in like being angry, like, Why did nobody notice I was struggling? Why did my parents don't notice? Why did my teachers not notice like? Like, I honestly took a lot of anger? Like, why didn't anybody help me. And that is a righteous anger. And I think we should be mad about that. Like, it wasn't fair. And it wasn't good. And it's like it just it it sucks. And there's a lot of stuff that like we didn't get to do as kids because like it affects our future. Like all it's like, there's so much wrapped up in that. But the one thing that I've been thinking a lot about and just chatting with this other mom about is that the hard part is like as much as I wish my parents had noticed that something was wrong. I wish some of my teachers had known like, how thankful I am that like when I was struggling in college that my doctor knew that was it. But like, I didn't get my diagnosis till I was 18. And how much like better off what I had been if I had those skills earlier, because I don't really feel like I develop them.

 Patricia Sung  16:34

Well, at that point. Like, it wasn't until my late 30s that I really like got it, you know. And at the same time, like I think back and I'm like I recognized like my parents did the best they could like the information we had back then the information that we had in the 80s and the 90s. And even the early 2000s is not to what we have now. It's nowhere near what we have now. And when we did have then was like here, take this medicine, when you do your schoolwork, we had no comprehension about how it affected our lives outside of like dedicated study time, or like deep thought work work, like we didn't get it. And so even had they known we wouldn't have had the support that we had, because we just didn't know the complexity. And we hadn't pulled all the layers of the onion back to understand what level of complexity it is. And like even now, I think a lot of people don't understand. And I feel like even in 20 years, like we'll know so much more about like the emotional regulation side and like that. That's why I focus like a lot on my like, in my coaching. And like when we're talking in successful mama meetups, it's like we're digging into all these things about emotions, because that's not as well known. Like we, we get that it affects our finances, and we get that it affects our ability to be on time. But I think we don't fully understand the complexity and like how it affects our relationships and how we interact with people. And like how we take criticism so much to the horror, like, think these are the things that we don't understand as much. And that's why I spend so much time in my coaching, working on those things. Because I think that they're such a key part of our happiness is understanding how we relate to others. And like, we have all this knowledge now, but we didn't back then.

 Patricia Sung  18:11

So it's like, even if you had your diagnosis back then which I know like I have several friends who were diagnosed as kids. And it was literally just like, take this medicine, you'll grow out of it. Like that was the advice. So even if you knew that you struggled, even if you knew why the support in place was not very effective. So this like grief, we carry around wishing that things had been different. It's like we're wishing for them, because now we have so much more knowledge 20 3040 years later, but because we didn't have that knowledge 20 3040 years earlier, like the quality of the support that we would have gotten in a quantity of support that we could have gotten like it's not the same, we couldn't have done that back then. Like our parents could not have supported us in the same way. Our teachers could not have supported us this way because they didn't know. And they didn't have access to the resources that would have given them that whether it's like a technology thing from like, the internet did not exist when I was a kid versus like, the training available and like what they could have done. Like even if people did the best that they could it still wasn't as good as we could have had now.

 Patricia Sung  19:20

So what I was talking about with Sarah, Hey, Sarah, shout out, Sarah. Is that understanding? Like as much as we wish somebody would have noticed there also just wasn't the resources available then and it wouldn't necessarily have been greatly different? Like, yes, it would have been different, but I think like the amount of different it would have been isn't as much as we wish it had been. Honestly gonna sound weird if I explain it. Like it's kind of like if you thought like, if I could have had like, now I learned all this stuff. And I'm like, Oh, my life has altered by 50% because of the information. I know it's like back then, like there wasn't the possibility for altering your life 50% It was like possibility to alter your life like 5% or 10%. But there was not the knowledge or resources available to be able to change your life 50% or 70%, or 80%. Like it just didn't exist, then like the knowledge and the resources were not available. And even though you wish it had been there, when we look back at 2020, we're looking back with also like the resources and capacity and knowledge that we have now and like, they just didn't exist back then. So all that to say, I hope that that will help you like in your grief process to know that like, yeah, like, be mad, be angry, be frustrated. And also know that like you have access to so much now that you could not have had access to then. And we can make a difference in this moment. And we can start changing things going forward.

 Patricia Sung  20:50

And as much as we wish we could change the past we can't. So like what can we do now? How can you support yourself here? And now with the knowledge and the resources and the capabilities that you have now? And start working on them here? How can you start changing your brain? Now? How can you use neuroplasticity? Now? How can you start setting up strategies and tools now, so that you can start seeing the impact of those changes, but also that you can then turn around and give them to your kids? Because a pretty good chance that if you have ADHD, least one your kids does, and not all of them. But how can you implement those things for you now so that you can start implementing those things for your kids as their children.

 Patricia Sung  21:28

So as much as like, we want to, oh, I wish it was different, right? What we can impact is now and how we can teach our kids those skills so that they're starting off on a better foot. And then they can turn around and teach their kids like this is part of our generational work like this is part of the generational change. Like when I say in the intro of my podcast, like I want to change the paradigm of ADHD. Not kidding, I really do want to change it. And that starts with us as moms changing the way we treat it in our families so that our kids are in a better place. And then their kids are in a better place like generational change is hard work mama like we're over here breaking some generational curses, and it's hard work. And sometimes I just want to take a nap. But here I am still making a podcast with sinus infection because I have things to do and worlds to change. So we can make a difference today. And part of that in like being able to make a difference today is that we have to let go of the past. Yes, work through it feel the feelings. And then at some point, we have to say that is what it is, and I can't change it. And I'm going to put all my energy instead of wishing that the past was different and to what I can do right now. Are you curious if you have ADHD, like you're still just not quite sure Is this me or not, maybe you're getting ready for your diagnosis appointment.

 Patricia Sung  22:42

 Or maybe you want to bring it up with your GP, but you're not quite sure how to talk about it. I put together a checklist of symptoms, that's not your average boring list of symptoms. It's the Patricia take on from what I've seen of working with 1000s of women ways that I see these symptoms actually showing up in real life. I put it all together in a downloadable checklist. And I want you to go get it, download the checklist, go through and check off here are the things that show up in my life. And there's space in there for you to write in where you see these things showing up in your life. And then you can take that list to your doctor's appointment and show them like when I say I'm being forgetful. Here's what I mean. When you ask me like, are you hyperactive? This is how hyperactivity shows up in my life in my brain, so that you have concrete examples. And you don't freeze up. When it comes time to talk about it. You have your preparation there and you feel competent and capable and talking about you because you know yourself best. So head over to my website. And you can download the free checklist at Patriciasung.com/ADHD-symptoms. And that'll go right to your email and you can take that with you and be prepared for that tough conversation. Again, that's Patriciasung.com/ADHD-symptoms.

 Patricia Sung  24:02

All right, and then random junk drawer final item is that I often read my reviews to you at the beginning of the podcast. And recently I have gotten some not so good reviews. Like when I first started the podcast getting a bad review was like literally the worst thing I could possibly think of. It was like RSD times 10 It was so scary to put myself out there. And then like I got this review last month it says too much rambling one star listen to an inattentive episode and found it really hard to follow. It'd be like, Oh, who is from Disney 2748 And I'm like, Girl friend, tell me you and I both have ADHD without telling everybody we got ADHD like you think I rambled too much. And you said it was hard to follow.

 Patricia Sung  24:43

Remember just two peas in a pod. But here's the thing. I have ADHD and this is my style, and like there's plenty of podcasts that are about ADHD that are not from people who have ADHD and I'm sure they have lovely things to add to the conversation but like, I understand that I talk a lot so I have podcasts like this literally, why have podcasts as I prefer talking? And yes, sometimes I repeat myself and part of that to habit from being a middle school teacher is you got to repeat yourself a lot because kids don't listen the first three times. And I really try to work on that, because my husband always like, you literally just told me the same thing. Like I'm sorry. But hear him. This is who I am. So yeah, I do remember sometimes. And also, I'm like, if it's an attendant episode, I'm thinking about my team. Like I really I outlined that thing really well, I thought that was pretty organized. But you know what, I'm not for everybody. And I've come a long way to be like, I'm not for everybody. Not everybody has to like me.

 Patricia Sung  25:34

That's okay. Like, I'm not here to be everybody's cup of tea. That's why there's like, literally like 7 million podcasts in the world you could choose from, like, you can go listen to a different one. That's all right. But what I know I have to focus on is like who I am for, and like the one right after that is five chars entitled Love, love, love, like, I'm not for everybody. And that's okay. And I can attribute like me totally being okay with that, too, like many years of therapy and ADHD coaching and like, I'm at the point where, like, cool, that's alright, like, Bobby, all right, and not being able to take that personally like that, like that right there is worth having a one star rating to know like, I'm okay with that. My feelings aren't hurt. I'm not the person for you. Sorry, I recently got a review, that was three stars for saying that I talk about my religion too much. And that, like if I'm going to have a Christian podcast, I should put so in the like description. I'm like, well, this isn't a Christian podcast, but like, I am a Christian, and I'm not going to hide who I am, I'm going to show up. As I am, like, just like I'm going to tell you about.

 Patricia Sung  26:43

If you've been following me on social media, I've been like posting about my butterfly garden and how I'm like, so mad about my aphid infestation, but otherwise, I'll get over it, hopefully, by next year. But like, you're gonna get all these pieces of me of like, how I love native plants and little notes that my kids draw, and you're going to get all these pieces of me and part of that is my faith. It's a really important piece of who I am. But I'm have told you before, like I've only done one episode about my faith in those by request, and it's clearly labeled as this episode is about my faith. Maybe those people didn't listen to it, when they saw that it was about that, like, I will never tell you what to do, I will never tell you that you have to believe what I believe you are going to get the full piece of like, who Patricia is here. And if that's not okay with you, that's alright. Like, then again, maybe I'm not for you. But I won't hide who I am. And I won't pretend that I don't have these pieces of me that exists. Like, just as much as I'm, like, willing to talk to you about having supportive people in my family through alcoholism.

 Patricia Sung  27:44

Like I'm also going to tell you about, like, what I believe and so if that's not okay with you, I understand and it's okay for you to not listen, but I won't hide who I am. And again, like this goes back to me really trusting who I am and like fully being okay with who I am, like, I'm going to share all of me with you. And there's gonna be parts that you don't like, and that's okay, because I like who I am. And that's what matters. So like all that to say like, you're probably still going to hear about my faith here and there because it's a big piece of who I am. But I'm never going to tell you like you're often a criminal person. Like that's not what we're here for. Okay? So if you're willing to put up with all the pieces of me stick around if you're not you're not then this school will be alright. And then the last bad review area I guess that I got is like one was called like phenomenal but going down the wrong path. And another called five stars for her knowledge and compassion within only four stars is reading where these two people are saying like, I'm just essentially my whole episode is a commercial. And all I'm doing is trying to sell my stuff.

 Patricia Sung  28:48

Like they were super sweet and saying like, Hey, I know you have to make a living like, this is your business, but like wishing that I didn't talk so much about what I'm doing. And I'm like this like and I this one was a hard one for me because like I even went to like I asked several people and I'm like, can you listen to the episode that was right before like when people love these reviews? Then tell me like Am I being too salesy? Like I don't want to sound like an infomercial, I'll be horrible. Like, can you help me? Like understand, like, is this a problem? Like, do I need to fix this in like, this was just hard for me. Like, in this way, like, I feel still a little bit like, apprehensive about it. I know that I can make everybody happy. But I also know and like I believe so fully in my heart in how much I can help you beyond just this podcast. Like it's hard for me not to like shout it from the rooftops and be like, dude, do you know that you can have your life be so much better than this? Like, you don't have to live like this. Like, it is hard for me not to like, run around and be like, hey, and like jump in people's faces and be like, Dude, you can fix your wife. This is awesome. Sorry, you know, I sound real silly.

 Patricia Sung  30:02

 I was like I have run out of my like, okay voice and now I'm just in distinct voice again, I drink a whole bunch of tea before I started recording thinking I can make it all the way through. But here we are, like, I so wholeheartedly believe in what I'm doing and how much I can help you that it's hard for me not to talk about it. Like, I want you to live the best life you can possibly live, I want you to be happy. I want you to figure out how to like wake up every day and be excited to do what you're doing to like, enjoy being with your kids, I don't want you to feel burnt out. I don't want you to feel overwhelmed. Like, I want to help you change your life to be as awesome.

 Patricia Sung  30:39

And as much as I love my life. Like I want that for you. So it's hard for me to be like, don't talk about this thing that you can help them with, like, I want to help all of you I want and I realistically know that like, the podcast statistic or something crazy, like 99% of the people who listen to my podcast will never join my community will never buy anything from me like, and that's fine with me like this is my ministry like this is the way that I support people. This is the way I help moms like that's cool. Like, it also makes me really sad that like only 1% of the moms listening are going to actually be able to like experience that level of difference in their life. I'm like, what? I'm literally over here handing out life change people. Like it's like you go to Costco, they're not just out there handing out all the samples and you're like, No, thanks. I don't need any of that. And you're like starving. And you're like, No, thanks. I don't I don't need any samples. I'm good. No, take the sample. Did you try it? It's delicious. You can have it? Did you eat a whole bag by this whole box of delicious bargains? Y'all my the Casco bark sins are killing me. I love them so much. And too many of them be like somebody's like, here's a free bark thing. It's delicious. You should try it and you eat it. You're like, This is yummy. No, you could buy a whole bag and you're like, Nope, don't want that. Like, it's delicious. It's it's gonna change your life. Like how do I not talk about it? Like when I first started the podcast, this is just a hobby.

 Patricia Sung  32:02

I just wanted to help some people. And so yeah, my podcast is going to be like really different for years later. And now that I've done like, I've spent the last four years trying to like, learn everything I can and help as many people as I can, like, how do I get more information my brain so I can give it out to the rest of the world. Like, I understand that the podcasts can be very different from the beginning. And also it's kind of weird to go back and listen to me four years ago, I'm like, I knew nothing. I knew nothing. But not really, I mean a lot of stuff. But like compared to like what I know now, I might even know nothing about Ben Patricia. Like, I know that what I can give you now is like so much better than four years ago, Patricia could have helped you. So I like get really torn when I see the reviews have like, You talk too much about what you do. But I'm also like, How can I not talk about this? How can I not help you change your life? Like, I feel like I'm being super selfish to not tell you that I can help you. Like if I just hold this all in, I'm like, Nope, you can't have any telephone me no, like, I want to help you as much as I can. Anyways, before I lose my voice, again, I will do my best to balance like I don't want to sound like an infomercial, that's terrible. But I also like want to help you as much as I can. And I want to make sure that you know all the ways that I can help you because I don't want you to continue to live in a way that like makes you unhappy. So I'm gonna do my best to try to straddle the line of not being too much as we sometimes can be, but also like, really want to help you. So I'll do my best to try to figure out how to balance those two things. We'll see. So I'm really, really want to help you. Alright, voice again, is the longer I record, the more I cough so hopefully I can kick this sinus infection quickly and be back next week. Sounded a whole lot better. Okay, so that's all my big hugs. Good luck on sorting all that out. And we'll talk soon. For more resources, classes and community head over to my website motherhoodinadhd.com

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