Finding Calm in the Chaos: Holiday Self-Care Tips #218
It’s here again… that awful feeling: I’m behind.
You swore this year you’d print those adorable Christmas cards with your family’s smiling faces in front of a glowing tree, but it’s December and you haven’t even started.
Your friends are sending you theirs, and just seeing them makes you feel guilty.
You’re scrambling to shop for presents online, wondering how you’re going to fit it into your budget.
And that damn elf on the shelf?
Hasn’t moved for days.
Mama, the holidays are a stressful time for most people.
But the truth is, it doesn’t have to be quite this bad.
If you’re feeling behind, and like you can’t rest because there just.isn’t.time… this episode is for you.
We talk about:
How to clean up after the holidays without feeling overwhelmed
Why you feel “behind” and what to do about it
Relearning how to rest, when adulting made you forget
How to make time to recharge when there just isn’t any time
There’s no law that says holidays have to be hard. Join me in choosing calm over chaos this year.
The cure to your holiday hangover: quick & easy steps to get your home back to its normal level of chaos after the holidays!
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Patricia Sung 00:02
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Patricia Sung 00:52
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Patricia Sung 01:08
Before we dive into this week's episode, let's read a review of the week. This one comes from M Ed 5k. Love, love, love five stars. Listening in from Australia, I cannot tell you how much I needed to find this. Lots of crying emojis. Thank you for sharing. Well, you are so welcome. And sometimes sharing all my insights is a little bit awkward and uncomfortable or a lot awkward and uncomfortable. But knowing that it
Patricia Sung 01:33
makes a difference to you makes it all worth it. Mama, if you have not yet rated the podcast, please head over to your app, hit those stars and let me know what you think. Hey there successful mama, it's your friend Patricia Sung. Well, next Thursday is my birthday, I have a full day of rest and doing nothing planned. I am not cooking. And I'm not cleaning up any dishes. I'm taking it easy. I am making myself rest a lot this month, because it's been a long year, if you've been following along for a hot minute, you know, a lot of the stuff that's been going on and like it's just been a long year, and I needed to rest. And clearly past me knew that future me was going to need some more rest, because it's just been a lot the last couple months. And I know that if I don't slow down, I will push myself too far. So I am taking off probably close to three weeks in December.
Patricia Sung 02:24
My kids have an incredibly long winter break this year, like out of the norm long. And I am going to take time to be with them on it, which is hard as a business owner to say. And yet I also want to honor the fact that like I started this business, so I could help as many moms as possible. But I also knew that I wanted it to be something that I could do without taking a huge amount away from my family. And they had like choosing the schedule that I wanted to be able to spend time with them when they're off school. And I gotta say it was a lot harder than I thought it sounded really clear cut when I made that goal. But it is hard to balance all these things. So I am going to take a couple weeks off here through December. So I don't expect another podcast to come out until I'm thinking I'll probably sometime in January.
Patricia Sung 03:09
But I don't actually know. And that's pretty unusual for me, I usually have my schedule pretty like I usually have it mapped out for like, the next three months, you know, I've already got guests, people like their interviews, click Record, and no, like I have planned. And right now I don't have a plan. My plan is to rest and figure out that in January. So you know, if you are of the ADHD breed that I am where you are pushing yourself too hard. I invite you to rest too. We deserve care whether or not we did a lot of stuff today, or yesterday or the day before that. And we have to take care of ourselves, you have to take care of yourself, no one else is going to do it for you. And I think as moms we especially need to hear this message right now in this season of busyness and there's more stuff going on.
Patricia Sung 03:51
There's more activities, there's more parties, there's more aspects on us of our time and our attention. It's really important for us to make sure that we are making space for us to rest and then also teaching our kids how to rest. It's easier said than done. So I invite you to give it a try with me. So nothing for me, we're gonna see how it goes. So before I share my tidbit with you, I do want to give you a present Happy Holidays, Merry Christmas, happy Hanukkah, of holidays. I want you to be able after all this holiday craziness is calmed down and like you're looking around your house being like, oh my goodness, this place is the most, I want you to be able to get your house picked up and back to its usual state. Whether that's, you know, kind of messy or a lot messy or not messy at all. Like, I wouldn't be able to do that within a couple of weeks by doing a little bit at each time.
Patricia Sung 04:41
Now you CAN bus out of several of these things at one time. But I put together a list of like taking all the tasks and how to get like picked up after the holidays and divided them over two weeks and I send you a 32nd video every day for two weeks on what to clean up that day. So you can do a little bit and be like yeah, me I'm done. Or you could do three or four In a row, it's up to you. But I want you to go back to feeling like your home is a more peaceful place, or at least like its normal level of clutter, and you feel less stress and that all this holiday fund is now a burden to you. I want you to feel good after the holidays too. So if you want the cure to your holiday hangover, the website is patriciasung.com/holiday-hangover. I'll link it in the show notes too. But that will send you up you an email every day 32nd video clip, one task to do.
Patricia Sung 05:30
And you can do that thing. Most of them take like 5-10 minutes tops. Some of them are a little more involved. But it's like quick things like how do we get this done in easy bites, little bit at a time. If you have more like a muffin you and you want to do three of them, go for it. But if we do a little bit of time, we can start to feel like we are back together in some more normal See, after the holidays, or home environments just so important for us to like feel calm and welcome and peaceful and for our family still feel that way too. So this is an ADHD friendly pickup thing. Like literally one of the first couple videos is like pick up all the trash. You got cookie crumbs, you got scraps of wrapping paper, we're just picking up the trash day. That's all we're doing. Picking out the trash like this is bite sized stuff. Okay. So that is available for you. Sign up for it here.: patriciasung.com/holiday-hangover.
Patricia Sung 06:20
And yeah, so for today, we're talking about how do we rest when things are too much. If you're feeling too busy, there's always so much to do. And you feeling overwhelmed? How do we slow down when you're feeling behind? And like you don't have time to slow down? Like what do we do? How do we deal with that? This is a clip from last month's successful mama meetup. So when we do successful meetups, it's different every week, the first 30 minutes is always us getting stuff done, and figuring out how to plan our upcoming week and feeling organized. But then the second 30 minutes is different. So sometimes we talk in small groups, sometimes I do free coaching. Sometimes we have a discussion on the theme for the month.
Patricia Sung 06:57
Sometimes we talk about the theme. Sometimes we talk about random things. It's different every time but you're building a community and you're having other moms that get you and know what it's like there to support you. I want you to have that community that supports you. Like it really warms my heart last week, when a mom it was her second time there. And she was saying, hey, I want to say thank you put this in the chat of the Zoom chat. She's like, I want to say thank you to the breakout group that I was in last week, like they had encouraged her to go back and talk to her psychiatrist because she wasn't happy with how things went. And she put the chair like thank you, thank you for encouraging me to go back and advocate for myself. Even though the doctor was like giving me some pushback, like thank you for telling me that it's okay, thank you for giving me encouragement, thank you for pushing me forward.
Patricia Sung 07:44
Like for her to feel that in our very first meeting is like, oh, like we need that you need to have people in your life who get you and cheer you on and like be there supporting you. And like it's extra special to be part of a community of other moms who get it because then these moms have the depth of knowledge and the wisdom of like, a lot of us have been here for a while dealing with these things. And a lot of us are new. So you get like all the different perspectives, but you get people who get it, even if people are newer in knowing that they have ADHD, like they've still been dealing with ADHD the whole time, even if they didn't know what it was, you know.
Patricia Sung 08:18
So like you will feel at home no matter where you are. There's moms who have known for a long time, there's moms here who haven't known but to come in the first week and be like, hey, these people get me in, they support me like that. And I know that I did a good job, like setting up a community with that kind of culture. And that I am just so honored that other moms who get that are joining and participating and being part of the community that helps other moms like it's just really beautiful. And I could keep talking about it. But you know, let me go ahead and get you into the episode so that you can learn all the cool stuff that we talked about. And these I want you to be able to take care of you in this season of business, have a great holiday focus on what matters to you, not anyone else.
Patricia Sung 09:01
And I hope that these tips help you have the best holiday that you can have so that you can truly enjoy this time with your family. I will talk to you soon successful mama. Before we continue on I want to say thank you to our sponsors who support allows me to bring you this podcast for free. As moms we're always on the lookout for a quiet fidget to help you and your kids feel peaceful when life feels uncomfortable.
Patricia Sung 09:23
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Patricia Sung 10:17
panic can stop is too much to know how do we rest when we're feeling behind. And I'm going to have you in this time, like be thinking about what this means for you. So I'll be asking you some questions as we go and giving you a couple minutes to like ponder that if you are a journal, or you can write stuff down. If you just want to think about it. You can if you want to talk into your phone and your voice memo. Like think about it in the way that matters for you. But I really want to give you this time, like you've already set aside this time. So I want you to have it be like not just me talking to your time, like let's think about like, how are you going to rest in the upcoming, you know, we got six weeks ahead of us that are going to be busy as moms into the holiday. So how can we take care of ourselves? How do we rest in these times where like there's so much going on, there's so much to do.
Patricia Sung 11:05
So I will be giving you that time to actually think about what does that look like for you. Because I know as moms like if we don't use this time that we have set aside, we're gonna be like, Yeah, that's a great idea, I should think about that. And then there's a circle back to it. Like this cop is going to come in example, in just a moment about how I did not rest and did not take my own advice. And now I still got a cough six weeks later, but I'll get to that in just a second. So when we think about slowing down and rushing and we're feeling behind, I sort of like like past me knew that future me needed to hear this message. Because I've had this like running theme of like, I have to get this stuff done for like, months.
Patricia Sung 11:43
Like for me personally between like, if you've been following my construction drama, we had a burst pipe last year at Christmas in one of our rental houses. So they ended up having like a full gut job construction project that I was not planning on doing because also I we just fixed this house that we live in for mold, like a year and a half ago. And I was like I'm never doing construction ever again. And well haha joke was I mean, because they did a whole whole good job on this rental property. And so it's been like this constant push of like, now I got a whole big project that I got to deal with, plus all the stuff that's going on just in regular life. And then a couple weeks ago, we had some big changes on my team. So I've been training new people. And then I got this sinus infection like six weeks ago.
Patricia Sung 12:26
And it was the same week that all the shifts happened on my team. And I'm like, it's cool. I can rest next week. Famous last words, like if I've read a book, chapter five lies, I tell myself, this is one of them. I can rest next week. So apparently past me knew that feature, we needed to hear this because this is a frequent thing, not just for me. But I think moms as a whole, like there's always more things we can do or that we think we should be doing or haven't been doing. So how do we still slow down and rest, especially in this holiday season, we're like, the whole point is for us to be slowing down and appreciating the time with our families and enjoying like we want to make all these glorious memories with our kids.
Patricia Sung 13:05
And also, I feel like I'm supposed to do elf on the shelf and be up to 11pm rearranging creatures in comical scenes with accessories. And let me get out this pipe cleaner and make a tiny mug for, there's always more we could be doing or should be doing. And knowing like, how do we balance all that? Or yes, we want to have great memories for our kids. And we also don't want to be doing elf scenes at 1am. We want to make quality, you know, memories of their kids.
Patricia Sung 13:35
But that also means we have to plan things to have these Pinterest where the photo shoots with Santa and Coco and all of a sudden, how do we bounce it off? So when we think about this feeling of like I'm so behind, I can't slow down I feel behind when we think about this concept of behind. What are we actually behind on like, what's the thing that we're not meeting and I want to show you this thing I was trying to find the article earlier. I know I had a bookmark somewhere. But of course it was not showing up when I want to but I want to show you this. I read the original article and I wish I could find it I'm sure I'll find it later tonight when I am annoyed that I wasn't able to find it. Let me just share this with you.
Patricia Sung 14:13
Sorry for the people listening to some of the podcasts you can see the picture but so here is this this article that I read probably like a year or two ago, this guy drew these really hilarious stick figures. And he was talking about how the difference like in how when you feel frustrated or you feel disappointed in how something's going. A lot of times the reason that we feel frustrated or disappointing is there's a gap between what we expected something to be like and where we are as a reality. So for those of you who are listening to this on the podcast version of our meetups, this picture is a like picture like paint that you used in 1984 to draw things on your computer somebody drew with their paint.
Patricia Sung 14:53
There's these like sad little guys at the bottom on ground level with like did brown grass And one of them soaking up sadly up in the sky way above is this glorious unicorn, he's actually vomiting rainbows. Or maybe it's a she I don't know, but she's dancing around vomiting rainbows way up in the sky. And so like our expectation is this unicorn rainbows maybe, maybe not with vomit, but less vomit, more rainbows. And then the reality of us down at the bottom. And where we get this frustration and disappointment is this gap between what we'd hoped it would be and where we actually are.
Patricia Sung 15:31
And granted, this is like a very like rudimentary, you know, depiction of what it is. And obviously life is more complicated than a tiny little graph here. But this article made me laugh so hard won because of the ridiculous paint drawings from 1985. But that understanding of like, if we're feeling like we're here at the bottom, and we have dead grass, and we see this unicorn with flowers and rainbows, we look up and like, why don't I have that? That's the difference between like, what we were hoping for where we are. And that's where we're feeling sad and frustrated and disappointed. Like, why isn't this working for me? And this is a question that my husband asked me all the time of like, when I am shooting for a goal. And I'm like pushing myself hard to get to this thing that I'm shooting for. He's like, who made the goal? Who set the goal? And I'm like, That would be me, the person in charge of this business I said to go, like, then why don't you just change the goal? Now like, but I set the goal, like I said, go have to do it.
Patricia Sung 16:33
And a lot of times when we have ADHD, because we have this history of not measuring up to what other people thought we should be doing. And we get this messaging of like, over time, I'm like, you should have gotten an A on that. Because you made all these careless mistakes. You didn't get an A you gotta be because you got all the answers, right. But you messed up a little things in the middle, and then you ended up with a B. So you're like, ah, but I tried really hard. And I thought I did it right. And so we have this repetitive like messaging that we don't measure up, we have a really hard time of letting go of our goals because we set the goal and we're going to achieve the goal because we worked hard, and we're going to prove that we can do it. And sometimes we get lost in what's the point of the goal was the point of the goal to get there by December 31.
Patricia Sung 17:19
And make the goal of 200 Whatever it is, or was the goal, I want to help a lot of people or was the goal like not that I needed to have, you know, Santa photos with the cocoa and the big shenanigans. The point was, I wanted to capture that memory, my family in this space and time, it wasn't really about the hot cocoa photos it was about, I want to have this moment saved that I can refer back to because I feel like my kids are growing up so fast that I'm like missing out on these in the time. So it's like when we can take a step back, which we can do when we're panicked in the moment.
Patricia Sung 17:51
We have to do that from a place of calmness, stepped back and said, Well, what was really the point of this goal? What was I trying to do? And like does it actually really need to be done right now? Or in this way? Can we reevaluate what that goal was? So that instead of feeling behind, like, I should have had my Christmas card pictures taken by now and I should have already printed them and started addressing the envelopes? Instead of it being? I'm behind on Christmas card goals? Can it be like can I send out Valentine cards and just not deal with this until January? Is it okay? If we have New Year's card like in my family like my husband's Asian so we do Lunar New Year count, I don't send Christmas cards, we send out our new year cards because that's in like, you know, February, maybe in January, early March ish.
Patricia Sung 18:37
I can deal with all that in January. And that works for me like so, can you adapt the goal so that instead of pushing yourself so hard, that it then still like you can still have that goal? But like what was it actually measuring to? What was the point of it? Like, where did it fit in with your values to have this goal. So what I want right now is to give you a couple of minutes, I'm gonna take these up and put them in the chat. I was actually typing them up earlier. Then I got a really weird text message that distracted me for a hot minute. And then I forgot it was me typing this question. So I will do that right now while you're brainstorming.
Patricia Sung 19:08
But what I want you to ask yourself is when you think about something that you feel behind on right now, and it can be something with the holidays, or it can be like literally anything sometimes it's like in my life, I thought I would have graduated by now. Or like it can be like anything. It doesn't have to be specifically holiday like holiday oriented. Like what's the thing that you feel behind in now? Like you're pushing really hard to get there and it's not getting where you want to be like, Why isn't this done yet? I mean, we tend to be impatient people in the first place.
Patricia Sung 19:36
But like, why is this not happening for me? When you think about that goal, I want you to think about these questions. So I'm going to give you about a minute each one the first question is what's the thing you feel behind on and the part two of that is again this like there's no wrong way to do this. You if you're like oh my gosh, I feel behind on so many things. Just pick one because in going through This exercise if you can apply these questions to the other things in your life, we don't have to solve all your life problems today. Okay, so just one thing that you're feeling behind on right now. And the second part is that, what's the should part about it? What's the thing you're expecting yourself to be at that you're not at? Like, I should have graduated with my degree by now I should have had Christmas card photos done by now, I should have like, what's the shoot good, that's making you feel like you're not measuring?
Patricia Sung 21:26
How does this school fit with your values? Like what was the point originally, of setting this goal? And how did that fit in with your values? Like for example, if I think about like, one of the things I fell behind on is trying to train my new team. I want them to be trained now so that I can help more people sooner as opposed to later. So the goal here is how do we help more people was really the root of that goal. So how does that goal fit in with your values? And also PS sometimes we just realized somebody else told us we should do that. And that's okay for you to say in that moment, too. If you're like, this really is not a goal for me. That was my brother in law who told me I need to send out Christmas cards like that's that is okay.
Patricia Sung 23:09
The next question is, does this school need to be done in this timeframe that you set for yourself? And in this way that you have set out? Does it need to be done in there? Like obviously Christmas cards or like they need to be done in the Christmas season? But like, do they need to be can we send Valentine's cards? Do they have to be done in this way? Like giving yourself that challenge? Like do I really need to do it in this timeframe? And do I really need to do it in this way? Yes or no? So then the follow up to that is question five is what is realistic in this season that you're in? What do you have capacity for and once you kind of know like okay, here's what I think I can do in this moment?
Patricia Sung 24:56
Bigger end question which you may not have all the answers to tonight. But this is kind of the thing to ponder on is how can you then modify the school so that it fits your values and fits whatever capacity you have right now. So how can we still achieve this goal that you want that fits within your values? Given whatever capacity you want? Like, for example, in the Christmas card? One, it's like, can we send digital Christmas cards? Instead of actually like paper addressing everything and going to the post office and buying this? Like, can we make this just a simpler process? And that way? Do we just throw out the whole idea of doing Christmas cards? Like, what is the way to modify it, so the goal still fits your values and the capacity that you have in this time? I'm gonna give you two minutes to ponder that word. And again, you're not going to solve all the mysteries of the world in two minutes, you have plenty of time to ponder this. So the goal deadline occurs So.
Patricia Sung 27:43
So again, you do not have to solve this this moment. But I think one of the coolest parts about our ADHD brains attempt if we identify a problem, when we kind of know, like, where are the pieces that we want to fit in, it's kind of just tucked in the back of our brains and marinates. And like, we'll get these brilliant ideas about it in the shower, or when you're driving in the car. Like once you have brought awareness to it, and your brain knows, like, Hey, I gotta find a solution to this. Those things will start moving into place in an observation about brains you are especially ours, if you don't have to solve it right now.
Patricia Sung 28:14
You have put the pieces in place, you know, set the stew in motion, it's simmering, give it some time, the soups better after its simmered a while right. So then the second part of this question is, remember the theme was how do we rest when we feel behind? So now we move to like, Well, why do we feel behind? And can we adjust that feeling of feeling behind, which is many layers, usually not just the one thing that we're talking about tonight, but we are made in many layers of behind layering in there. But the first part of that is how do we rest when we're feeling behind.
Patricia Sung 28:40
So given that, like life is going to keep going, there's no pause button of like I shall rest now pause, nothing else happen. This is something that we like literally have to make time for. And it was funny on Monday, I had booked a spa thing in this Korean spa, that's like 20 minutes away, and you like just go like sit in the hot tubs and you go like the cold water and you go back to the sauna. Ah, kind of like jump around. And he's like, how do you have time to do all this self care? We have so much to do. Like we're leaving on vacation next week. I'm still working with the insurance company about the construction, like all the pieces, how do you have time for this? And I was like, I don't, I don't have time for this. And I know that if I don't do it anyways, I'm just not going to take care of myself. Like that's how I ended up sick with a sinus infection for six weeks because because all the doodoo was hitting the fan, which is probably also one of the reasons I was like, my immune system was down and I was getting sick, but I was like it's fine.
Patricia Sung 29:35
I'll rest next week. I gotta get this stuff sorted out. And look, we're six weeks later. So the sinus infection again, you're like ah, so I know that if I don't make a point to take care of myself, it's not going to happen. And that means I just don't do it. But the problem is when you just don't do it eventually your body goes Patricia. I boycott we cannot do any more things you must stop. And you know I thought I learned this lesson but clearly it didn't last month. And so we don't get the choice to take care of ourselves, we eventually will be told what to do by our bodies if we don't. So no, I don't have time to go to the Korean spa for two hours and sit in the hot tub. But I also know that if I don't slow down and do it, I will just run myself into the ground. And that for me is what works for me is that I scheduled it, I had a body scrub at 11am. And so I will show up for the body scrub at 11am Regardless, because I made the appointment and I won't waste the money.
Patricia Sung 30:29
But if I don't do that, I just won't go see exhibit eight, I've been saying I'm gonna do this for like six months, and I still haven't done it. And I know I'm putting it on the calendar. And I'm going to take that break because vacations with kids are not vacations or trips. And as much as I'm sure we're gonna have a great time and thanksgiving. It's not a vacation. It's true. So we have to make time for those things. But it doesn't have to be two hours of the Korean Day Spa, I highly recommend if you have a Korean Day Spa by you slowly. But like it doesn't have to be a two hour thing. It can be these little nuggets that we stick through our day that are taking care of us. So our last brainstorm here.
Patricia Sung 31:04
And we talked about this a little bit like last month or the week or the month before that, but what are the things that you find restful, that re energize you? And it's going to be different for everyone, but what are those things that really light you up that make you feel even if you're expending energy, you still feel quote better after you're done with them, which for some people might be a movement or a yoga class. For some people, it might be something artistic or art, like, if you have no idea. Think about what you loved as a kid. What did you love doing as a kid? What were those things that made you really happy when you were like eight years old? Is it petting your dog? Is it just sitting on your front step and like looking at the clap laying in the grass and looking at the clouds and saying what shape they are like, it doesn't have to be a big thing. But what are the things that give you energy and will help you feel rejuvenated at the end of that? Two minutes, five minutes? What are those things that help you feel rested?
Patricia Sung 32:00
today? Give me one more minute to brainstorm something joyful, something restful that you could do in the next week. And I'm gonna ask you to like write down when you're going to do it. Like I put Korean baseball Body Scrub at 11am on Monday, what's the thing that you're going to say like I am going to do this thing. And again, if you end up doing it on Thursday instead of Tuesday, it's fine but like what's the thing that you're going to do in the next week or so that's going to take care of you?
Patricia Sung 33:27
So if you need to head out to those quiet alright, but if you want to stay for like two more minutes and share what it is that you are going to do to take care of yourself. Because when we share what we're willing like what we're going to do, it's much more likely that we will actually do it if you are up for sharing that. I would love to hear it. If not If you guys dip off that's quite okay. But I'd love to hear how you're gonna take care of yourself in the next week. All right, y'all. I'm like I keep on talking. But I will let y'all go. So good to see you if y'all want to say bye. So hopefully I will see you all same time next week from LA so we'll see you guys. Thank you so much.
Patricia Sung 34:10
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