Am I Too Much? Accepting & Loving Who You Are, Plus Your Retreat Invitation #263
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Ever feel like you’re “just too much”—too scattered, too loud, too mistake-prone, too ditzy, just…too all over the place?
Maybe you dropped your phone in the ocean and screamed “noooo” until you cried? (Raising my hand slowly…)
If so, you’re in the right place.
This last couple of weeks has been tough – a sinus infection, perimenopause brain fog, sunburned kids, lost phones, scraped bumpers, too-much-talking children, and waves of “am I too much for everyone?”
If you’re a mama with ADHD barely keeping your head above the laundry—err, water—this one’s for you.
Here’s what we’re discussing today:
Why “careless mistake” is a phrase I wish would disappear (like my phone in the waves)
The inside scoop on what “I’m too much” really means—and how it’s all relative (spoiler: it’s not you, it’s the situation and who you’re with)
My tried-and-true tricks for loving yourself through chaos, mistakes, and feeling like a walking, talking, sticky note of forgetfulness
How to communicate with your family when your ADHD turns up to level eleven—and what a little vulnerability can do for your relationships
What it looks like when you stop trying to shove yourself into everyone else’s “normal” and start being unapologetically YOU (even if “you” occasionally forgets the sunscreen)
A sneak peek at the amazing ADHD Mama Retreat—your chance for a whole weekend of self-care, nature, and connecting with mamas who actually get it (and won't judge you for that time you forgot your own age)
This isn’t the land of Pinterest-perfect life. It’s the real, messy, laugh-so-you-don’t-cry journey of being a mom with ADHD who is embracing their quirks—and finally letting go of the “I should just try harder” myth.
I’m hoping you feel seen, heard, and maybe even ready to forgive yourself for that thing you messed up last week (you know the one).
Ready to hug your “too much” self and join a community of mamas who do the same? Hit play. And join us in October for the 4th annual ADHD Moms Retreat.
Stick around until the end of the episode, when I’ll tell you all about this amaaaaaaaaaazing weekend that you just have to come to!
Early bird tickets are available until June 1st!
Why get your ticket this month?
1) Secure the shrinking payment plan - no added interest.
2) Choose the kind of tiny home you want while both are still available.
3) Grab an additional group coaching session during the retreat weekend.
4) Look forward to this trip All Summer Long!
I’m toying with some other things, too, but I’ll leave a few surprises as well.
Join me on a relaxing weekend away:
Wish you felt better about all the stuff you’ve messed up recently? Need a weekend away to get your head on straight? You are officially invited to the 4th annual ADHD Moms Weekend Retreat, October 10-12, 2025, just outside of Houston, Texas!
“Honestly, this was one the best weekends I've had since becoming a mom. I've never felt so seen and understood. I would hop on a plane and go again. No hesitation! I'll follow y’all anywhere, moms.” –ADHD Mama J.Q.
I’ll take care of all the details - you simply show up and enjoy. I take care of you while you learn how to take even better care of yourself, in a way that’s sustainable for real momlife.
Because you can take care of your family when you’re in a healthy place. Early bird tickets & bonuses are available until June 1st. Get your all-inclusive ticket here: https://www.patriciasung.com/retreat
Patricia Sung [00:00:00]:
I dropped my phone in the ocean this weekend. And no, there's no happy ending. I did not get it back.
Patricia Sung [00:00:07]:
Are you overwhelmed by motherhood and barely keeping your head above water? Are you confused and frustrated by how all the other moms make it look so easy? You can't figure out how to manage the chaos in your mind, your home, or your family. I get you, mama. Parenting with ADHD is hard. Here is your permission slip to let go of the Pinterest worthy visions of organization and structure fit for everyone else. Let's do life like our brains do life, creatively, lovingly, and with all our might. When we embrace who we are and how our brains work, we can figure out how to live our lives successfully, and in turn, lead our families well. At the end of the day, we just wanna be good moms. But spoiler alert, you are already a great mom.
Patricia Sung [00:00:57]:
ADHD does not mean you're doomed to be a hot mess, mama. You can rewrite your story from shame spiral to success story, and I'll be right here beside you to cheer you on. Welcome to Motherhood in ADHD.
Patricia Sung [00:01:13]:
I have been feeling very much too much the last couple of weeks. I have been making so many mistakes, Like, things that would be labeled as careless mistakes that I hate. I hate that term so much. It, like, gut wrenches in all of my childhood hurts. Like, I hate it so much, and that's what I've been doing. And they're not careless mistakes. They are mistakes. And so I'm trying to rebrand this in my mind, but it has been a hard couple of weeks.
Patricia Sung [00:01:41]:
And the funny part, when, like, not not not like funny funny funny, but, like, ironic funny, I guess, is that I'm too much is the theme for the retreat coming up in October. And I'm gonna tell you about the retreat at the end. But right now, I'm gonna talk about being too much because I picked this a really long time ago. I think it was about a year ago because it was when I was talking to Tammy Hackbarth, and she was on episode two twenty four. And that was last May, so we recorded it before that. So as soon as she said the phrase I'm too much, I'm like, that's I'm doing something with that. That is a thing. I'm gonna make it into a thing.
Patricia Sung [00:02:16]:
I'm gonna run with that. And I quickly knew that that was gonna be the following retreat because I'd already planned out the, you know, the retreat for last year. And I knew this was the right phrase because I hear it all the time. You tell me this all the time that you feel like too much. And the funny part is I didn't take any notes when I decided this. I decided it, and I didn't write anything down. So a month ago, I started to, like, make my prep for, like, okay. I gotta start talking about the retreat soon because tickets are gonna be open in May.
Patricia Sung [00:02:42]:
And I'm like, I don't remember why I picked this. And it's like my brain, like, I needed, like, a little bit to be like, I needed to get the gears going to try to remember why I picked this. And the funny part is when I started thinking about this a month ago, I wasn't feeling very too much, so it wasn't hitting as close to home. And now I am very much feeling like too much. Maybe the universe is just keeping me humble. I don't know. But it's like a month ago, I felt like I was in a pretty good place. Like, even though things have been really stressful recently, I was like, okay.
Patricia Sung [00:03:10]:
I feel like I'm handling it all. Like, it's not great. It's not ideal. But, like, overall, I I think I got this. Like, I mean, if you've been here for a second, like, I've been talking about, like, there's just been a big transition in our family. Like, my load at home has gone way up because my husband took a new job. He's traveling more. He's not working from home.
Patricia Sung [00:03:28]:
Our beloved nanny went to work with another family because my kids are older now, and we didn't really need her full time. But at the same time, like, I for sure needed her part time, but, like, she needs a real job, like, that pays full time and, like, it was time for her to move on. And I know that, but it was, like, so hard to say goodbye and then also take all of that on my plate too. Because, like, I recognize that the reason I was able to do this podcast and, like, build this business and, like, build a community for moms is because I had help. And I said that over and over again and, like, but you don't realize how much help you have until it's not there anymore. Like, you don't know what you got till it's gone. It's like I knew theoretically, but I didn't know until all of a sudden I was supposed to do it all on my own. And then, like, you add in, like, maybe you can hear my voice.
Patricia Sung [00:04:15]:
Like, I've got this, like, cold sinus y thing that's been lingering for, like, two weeks now. And, like, I thought I made it through because my husband was sick for, like, a week, and I was avoiding him, like, the plague. He'd be like, I'm not getting your germs. And, of course, I got his germs. And so, like, you add that in and, like, I'm working on the book and I'm, you know, working on the retreat stuff. And my period was late late for the first time, like, ever. I have a second time. I have a very regular cycle.
Patricia Sung [00:04:48]:
And so now, I'm like, oh my goodness, is the perimenopause starting? Was this just a fluke? Or am I like starting down the rabbit hole of perimenopause? And I'm like, no. No. No. I don't want to. The brain fog that I felt in those, like, probably, like, three weeks waiting for my cycle to start was, like, bonkers. I am concerned. Like, is this is this happening the next few years of my life? What? And then on top of just, like, you know, trying to go to the gym and, like, volunteer and drink water, like, it has been a rough transition. My stress has been up and my symptoms are up.
Patricia Sung [00:05:27]:
But I thought I was doing pretty good until the perimenopause thing jumped in. I'm like, oh, is this the new normal? Or am I still in just this transition time? Like, one time, I can't be like this is a new thing. But I am concerned because in the last few weeks, I dropped my phone in the ocean. Like, I went out to video my kids boogie boarding and dropped my phone. And immediately, as soon as I dropped it, a wave came through and, like, it was gone. Gone. Gone. Gone.
Patricia Sung [00:05:54]:
Panic. Sheer panic, yelling. Like, no. No. No. No. No. No.
Patricia Sung [00:05:58]:
No. Like, I have not felt that level of panic in a long time. And it was like, there's nothing I can do. I mean, I searched in that ocean for a long time, but, like, you couldn't see two feet in front of you in the water. Like, I was I'm not I was not finding it. And there's just been, like, multiple things that, like, I backed my car into a stationary object the other day. Like, thankfully, there's no damage besides a scrape on my bumper, but, like, what on earth? Like, I didn't even look. I did not look behind me before I backed out.
Patricia Sung [00:06:26]:
Like, that's crazy. But, like, my brain did not, like, think, hey. Look where you're going first, which which worries me. Whereas, like, when I was standing in the ocean, my phone, I was like, this probably not a good idea. I should go back in. And, like, I literally was telling my kids, like, okay, you guys, we gotta go back in. I'm, like, hurting them and when I drop the phone. And then I forgot to put sunscreen on my kids twice, which makes me feel like a bad mom.
Patricia Sung [00:06:46]:
And they got, like, crispy. And right now, my oldest is, like, so itchy, and he keeps scratching at it, and he's, like, making a mess out of it. And, like, that makes me feel even worse. Like, oh, I can feel the brain lag. Like, I feel like my brain is just, like, one second behind. And it's not as bad this week, but I still have this, like, snotty ness going on. So, like, it makes me worry, like, is it the perimenopause? Is it the sickness? Like, I can tell my brain is, like, changing stations really fast, like, on the radio if you're, like, you know, when you hit, like, forward forward, like, trying to find what you want when you're scanning. It's like I feel like my brain keeps doing that, and it feels less in my control.
Patricia Sung [00:07:24]:
And normally, I don't feel like that because I take my medicine consistently and I'm taking care of myself and I'm doing all the things and I'm implementing all the strategies and I feel like overall, I was in a really good place a month ago and now I'm like, oh my gosh, this is a lot. And where the too much thought came in, I was like, is this too much for my husband? Am I gonna be too much for him? Between the car thing and the phone, like, it's not stuff that's just like, okay. Brush it along and, like, keep going. Like, I am genuinely concerned at this point. And when I'm dealing with both, the, like, my brain literally did not slow down long enough to, like, think something through and do it, like, checking before I back up my car. But also that, like, as I'm standing in the ocean, I'm like, I should not have my phone in here. I should go back in, and I, like, delayed it to herd my kids in when, like, I knew, like, oh, this is not good. I should go back in.
Patricia Sung [00:08:13]:
Like, I'm dealing with both the I didn't slow down enough to think about it, and also I did not do the things when I heard the warning in my head. That makes me worry because it's like this coping mechanism, like, circle, spiral. I don't know what you call it. It's like I feel anxious because I know I did not do the thing that I would normally do, that I should do. And you know, I don't like the word should. I should've looked behind the car. That makes me panic that, like, my brain's not doing the things that it normally does, which makes me feel out of control, which for me tends to lean into these, like, OCD tendencies of now I have to check things way too much because I'm worried that I'm gonna miss it. And, like, it reminds me of the time in my postpartum OCD where I was worried about everything and checking everything way more than is healthy and good for my well-being.
Patricia Sung [00:09:04]:
Because when, like, I heard the warning bell in my head of, like, hey, you probably shouldn't have your phone in the ocean. I didn't do it. So that makes me worry that, like, I'm not being responsible, which then makes me anxious, which turns into panic, which turns into wanting more control to the OCD tendencies to the worry to the anxiety. And it just ends up in this, like, circle that, like, keeps going around and around. And on one hand, I'm really thankful that I have grown enough and I have all this knowledge to be, like, I can step back and look at this objectively and, like, give myself a hug. Like, you know, if you've ever done, like, parts work in therapy of, like, hugging myself, like, when I think about, like, Patricia who was just after having a baby and really scared and everything fell out of control and, like, that where the OCD really started to kick in in an in a super unhealthy way. Like, I can see the tendencies through most of my life, but, like, that time was like, whoo. I'm glad that I can stop and, like, give myself a hug and be like, okay.
Patricia Sung [00:10:06]:
I see you trying to cope with this. I see you struggling and feeling like things are out of control. I see that you are scared and that you are afraid and you need a hug. And, like, I appreciate that I have grown that much. And also, I'm like, I don't wanna do this again. Like, no no thank you. I don't wanna do this again. And I am currently working through this on my own because my therapist is on maternity leave.
Patricia Sung [00:10:31]:
And I know that I can reach out to one of her associates if things get to the point where they're, like, untenable, horrible, awful. There there is I have a lifeline. Do not worry about me. I am being vulnerable and sharing, but I'm not in a bad place. I am aware and concerned, but not yet underwater. And what I realized that I really miss about therapy is that it was a required time for me to stop and pause for, like, two years, like, once a week. And now more like every other week. But it was a required time for me to stop and think about how I'm doing and check-in and process through things.
Patricia Sung [00:11:07]:
So they weren't just building up and then overflowing. So I'm now having to do this on my own, which is good. Like, this is the next healthy step in the process is me being able to do it on my own. And, like, I recognized that, like, while I thought, like, cool. I'm doing so great before she went on maternity leave. I'd probably skip this for a little bit. And I'm like, I really think I want that check-in because I think that required check-in of me slowing down is really valuable. So, like, I want that maintenance level of care because it makes me do it.
Patricia Sung [00:11:34]:
That's an accountability. Because I do recognize that, like, this next phase, if this if I am entering perimenopause, like, this is gonna be hard. And if you want to go listen to other episodes on that topic, like, there's one episode with Linda Rogley on menopause. It's episode two forty six. There's one with doctor David Goodman, two forty two about perimenopause. Like, there are resources here. If you if you two are in this boat, like, I have started researching. But in this time where I'm processing on my own, what I'm realizing is like, oh, right.
Patricia Sung [00:12:05]:
This is why I picked this thing. Like, I'm too much. Like, this it is too much, but too much is a relative term because being too much is, like, in comparison to something else. So what I like to do is tack on to the end of the phrase. I'm too much for the thing that is too much for. So for example, we had too much sun this weekend because normally we don't spend that much time at the beach. Normally when we go there for Easter weekend, like, it's earlier in the spring, so it's not as sunny, it's not as warm, so we don't stay out there that long because the kids get cold when we go inside. But, like, we could spend that much time in the sun later in the summer when we've built up more tolerance and our skin's a little more tanned.
Patricia Sung [00:12:44]:
And by we, I mean, not me because I don't tan at all. I'm super pale, and I burn in, like, fifteen minutes. So I'm the one wearing SPF 50 and then reapplying every hour like a crazy person. Like, I am obsessive about my sunscreen. I wear sunscreen every day. But, like, my kids, they tan much better. Thank goodness. They got my husband's skin and all mine.
Patricia Sung [00:13:05]:
So, like, I only put sunscreen on them when we're gonna be out there for a long time or, like, if they're not wearing goggles because, like, there's the whole thing with the goggles getting slippery with the sunscreen. And, like, you know, like, should I put sunscreen on them all the time? Probably. But, like, you know, there's so many fights you can have as a mom, and this is not the hill I'm dying on. So I put on sunscreen all the time because I can't handle the sun, but, like, my level of too much sun is not the same as my husband and my kids. And me having to drop a few hundred dollars to buy a new phone, like, that could have been too much for some people. Thankfully, I can afford the $25 a month for the next three months while I'm also paying for the old phone that I haven't yet paid off. But, like, I can handle that. It sucks, but, like, that too much.
Patricia Sung [00:13:44]:
In this case, like, I can handle the extra payment to to cover my ADHD tax, sadly, but I can do it. My seven year old is a talker. His talking is too much for me quite often. But I make a point that whenever he's talking too much, I tell him it's too much for me. I don't tell him he's talking too much. I tell him it's too talk talking too much for me. He's the sweetest and, like, he was the one who offered to help me go back and look for my phone after the tide went out. Like, the whole time he's talking about, like, just on and on about my phone, and I'm, like, so sad out here, like, pitifully looking for my phone in the sand, and, like, he just keeps talking.
Patricia Sung [00:14:16]:
I'm like, I know he's trying to be helpful, but it was it was not helpful. It was it was just it was just hurting my feelings so much, and I was like, pumpkin, I really appreciate you coming out here to help me. And right now, I'm really sad about my phone, and I'm really frustrated that I made a mistake. And do you mind just not asking me any more questions for, like, a couple minutes while I I just be sad? And I was really proud of myself for, like, sometimes I don't have that level of self control, but I was able to do that at that moment. And, like, I don't ever want him to feel like his talking is too much, like, as a rule because it's not too much for him. He's happy with his talking level. It's me, the introvert who was like, oh my gosh. I, like, don't even remember that phrase.
Patricia Sung [00:14:56]:
Crying in my crying in my soup, crying in my drink, crying in my bed, crying I'm like, oh, you guys, this is this is it. I my brain is tired and maybe I am in the in the better menopause because I can't think of words. But I was wallowing in self pity, and the talking was too much for myself petty. When I think of, like, my husband can be too much for me because he's so boisterous and loud and extroverted and I'm the opposite, but that's a relative term for me. My oldest is too much like me. It's like looking in a little mirror of myself. And so sometimes what he does is too much because it reminds me of exactly all the things that I wish I could change about myself or or the things that I'm working on or the things that I'm, like, really trying hard to accept, like but it's all relative. It's in relation to how I feel about it.
Patricia Sung [00:15:40]:
Like, their stuff is not a problem for them. This stuff is a problem for me. So when I was thinking about, like, oh my gosh, is this too much for my husband? Like, is he gonna be able to put up with this for the next few years? Because, like, it's a lot. And, like, his mom went through really rough perimenopause, and so, like, that's part of, like, his childhood roughness. And I've always known that that's really hard for him, so it was, like, making me freak out. So I had to put a kibosh on the freak out and be like, okay, Patricia, what we're gonna do about this? So, like, I'm keeping my husband in the loop of what's going on and what I'm concerned about and apologizing profusely for the phone and the car and all the things. I am using all of my skills to care for myself and making sure that I'm not abandoning the things that help me, like the structures that help me and the rhythms that help me and all the things that I've learned, like, what are the tools that I can use to help me in this situation because this is gonna be hard. I am adjusting the boundaries that I have in place for what I can handle because I'm realizing, like, as much as I have cut back on things that I'm doing, I'm gonna have to cut back some more.
Patricia Sung [00:16:40]:
Like, if my brain is gonna run a second behind everything, like, I'm not gonna be able to do all the things that I used to do. I caught myself driving really slow the other day because I was like, I I gotta be safer. And, like, normally, I have a lead foot. And so now I'm driving slowly, and, like, that makes me really sad. It makes me feel like an old person. But until my brain catches up, which hopefully either you get rid of all the snot, but I need to make the decisions that are gonna take care of me even if I'm like, oh, that's a bummer. I feel old. And part of it is working through, like, owning this too much feeling because I'm not being careless in the mistakes that I'm making.
Patricia Sung [00:17:13]:
I care a lot. I care a lot. I care a lot. A lot. A lot. More than probably most people care, and it it's not careless. What I do need to do is slow down and listen to myself when I hear myself with the warning bells. But reminding myself, like, the people that love me, they love me as I am.
Patricia Sung [00:17:32]:
And, like, it turns out my husband was really mad about the phone, not actually because it was the phone because he thought I got hit by a wave and then I dropped the phone and that he was worried about me drowning because if you haven't been here for a little while, I just learned how to swim when I was 35. So I was a very weak swimmer up until a few years ago. But then when I got I learned how to swim, and then I got really sick, and I was really weak and just couldn't, like, swim well because I was tired all the time. So he's never known me to be a strong swimmer, and that's why he was freaking out because he thought that I wasn't paying attention and got knocked over with the waves, and then, like, he was worried about me drowning, which is why he was so upset. And so, like, when we understand and, like, have these conversations, then we can work through so many things. It's time to be who you are unapologetically. No more contorting or shrinking yourself to fit inside the box. Instead, you're going to feel the freedom of just being yourself because you are more accepting of who you truly are.
Patricia Sung [00:18:28]:
You're invited, mama, to this year's fourth annual successful as a mother weekend retreat. It is time to relax, unwind, rest, and take care of a very important person in
Patricia Sung [00:18:38]:
the family, which is you.
Patricia Sung [00:18:40]:
This year's retreat is on October 2025, and you are invited. This is an all inclusive retreat. It covers your meals, your hotel, all of your activities. You literally only have to show up, and I will take it from there. We are staying at the peaceful Happy Goat Retreat just outside of Houston, Texas. I have rented rented the entire property, so we have it all to ourselves where we will enjoy nature and breathe deep in the fresh air and the calm of the lake and the sway of the trees. But this is not camping. This is glamping.
Patricia Sung [00:19:13]:
You will stay in your very own adorable modern tiny home with your own comfy queen-size bed, your own private bathroom, and living space that's just for you. Go check out the pictures I posted on my website because it is so cute. We will spend the weekend learning about our ADHD and tune into who you are and what you need so that you can trust your gut and love yourself a little bit more. All while eating delicious food you didn't cook, you didn't clean up, and hanging out with awesome other ADHD mamas who are just like you in this journey of understanding ADHD and also trying to do all the things, but not this weekend. This weekend, you are doing none of the things. You are relaxing. I will take care of everything and you get to focus on you. Head over to my website patriciasung.com/retreat and get your ticket.
Patricia Sung [00:20:02]:
This is a small group of 14 mamas and we already have six moms signed up. So I don't have a ton of spots left. Do not wait. Do not procrastinate. When you hear this and know this is for you, go get your ticket. Earlier tickets are available until the May, and you get a few bonuses by signing up early. Number one, there's a shrinking payment plan available. You can spread your payments out farther when you sign up earlier.
Patricia Sung [00:20:24]:
There's no extra charge for that. Two, you get to choose your room. Currently, there are four standard tiny homes called the Bijou available and four deluxe tiny homes available. So get your room now so you get first dibs on the type of tiny home that you want to stay in. Number three, everyone who buys an early bird ticket is invited to a bonus group coaching session over the weekend. Here, we can dive into the specifics of what you're struggling with and identify what you wanna work on going forward so that you leave the weekend feeling even more confident. And then four, obviously, you get to look forward to this trip all summer long. So go sign up.
Patricia Sung [00:20:57]:
Get your ticket and take a weekend to relax and take care of yourself while I do all the work. Head over to patriciasung.com/retreat and get your ticket for the fourth annual ADHD moms amazing getaway weekend and relax. Patriciasung.com/retreat. And I think it's been an interesting, like, side note is that I feel like a lot of issues we have, especially in relationships, come down to communication and two people not being on the same page or inferring something or assuming something and not really being aware of the other person. Like, I've been on, like, a rom com kick as I've been sick and making myself, like, go lay down earlier and, like, rest more. I've been watching all these rom coms, and it's like it's always this, like, miscommunication after miscommunication. So when we can stop and, like, talk about something with somebody, then it clears up. Whatever the confusion is, and when you're on the same page, like, then you can attack things as a team instead of feeling like you're on opposing sides.
Patricia Sung [00:21:54]:
And then I'm working on loving myself even when I am too much, even when I make mistakes. I know that I have come so far, and yet this is still really hard. I'm really proud of how far I've come in loving who I am even when it feels like I'm not doing a good job. But here's the thing, I'm still me when my ADHD symptoms are well managed, and I'm still me when things are hard, when things don't feel well managed, when it feels out of control, I'm still me. And I'm never gonna get to the point where I'm somebody else, and I don't have ADHD. And that's not my goal. So I have a lot more forgiveness and grace for myself knowing that the goal isn't to be perfect or to pretend like I don't have ADHD. The goal is to love who I am and do my best.
Patricia Sung [00:22:43]:
Sometimes my best is not being late, and sometimes my best is still running late. Sometimes my best is not making mistakes, and sometimes I still make mistakes. Everybody makes mistakes, and I have to keep reminding myself of that. And just because I'm doing well at a time and I'm not sticking my foot in my mouth, I'm not messing up, that doesn't mean I don't have ADHD. I still have ADHD, and I'm still worthy of being loved no matter how well I'm doing in the moment. And right now, things are hard. I am in a transition, in a shift where things are not easy. And there's a lot of stuff I didn't have to deal with recently because I had things well managed and my stress was lower.
Patricia Sung [00:23:21]:
But I'm really glad that now I don't have to hide. I don't have to pretend like I don't have problems. I don't have to try to compensate for all my shortcomings, if you will. Like, I can be me, and I don't have to hide who I am. I'm still gonna strive for doing better. I'm still gonna strive to get all my ducks in a row and feel like I'm using my strategies and my skills, but my goal isn't perfection. And my goal isn't to not have ADHD, and my goal isn't to have no problems so that would make me more lovable. No.
Patricia Sung [00:23:50]:
I am lovable just as I am. And accepting who I am is very different than ignoring who I am. And this, like, this is what I want you to get out of this episode. This is what I want you to get out of coming to the retreat, is knowing how to accept yourself, how to love yourself, how to trust yourself more, how to have kindness and grace and forgiveness when the doo doo is hitting the fan, and you might have caused some, if not all of it. And you are still worthy. You're so valuable. You are still lovable even in the mess. But it like, not in spite of the mess because people are messy.
Patricia Sung [00:24:25]:
Nobody's perfect. And I am doing this episode as much for you as I am for myself because I need to hear this too. And I wanna give you the gift of an entire weekend being able to spend time investing in accepting yourself, investing in loving yourself, investing in knowing that you are worthy just as you are. So I hope that you're gonna join me on the retreat this fall. And if you can't, for one reason or another, I want you to go back and listen to this episode again and remind yourself of how much you are lovable and how much you are valuable. And even when you feel like you're too much, you may be too much for somebody else or some other situation, but you by yourself are not too much. You are just perfect the way you are, even though you're not perfect. And if you are gonna come with me this weekend to enjoy this amazing weekend with other moms who got it, listen.
Patricia Sung [00:25:18]:
Go get your ticket. This is the time. This is the time. Go get your ticket. They are on sale today. As of currently, we've got four tickets available for the Bijou tiny home, which is the regular tiny home. And we have four deluxe tiny homes available, which is a one bedroom unit, and these are so cute. They're so adorable.
Patricia Sung [00:25:37]:
You have to go on the website, go look up the pictures. They're adorable. I'm actually staying there next weekend to work on my book. Like, I adore this place. It's so cute. And I want you to have this little nugget of space to be by yourself and relax and enjoy the gorgeous tiny home where you're gonna be able to sleep in your own queen bed, and you have your own private bathroom, and all of the modern amenities that we as moms want as we're relaxing, and yet in the midst of nature. I have rented out the entire property at the Happy Goat Retreat. So we get the full 14 acres to ourselves.
Patricia Sung [00:26:15]:
There's a lake and a swimming pool, pine trees that are swaying in the breeze, and we get to be in the calm of nature and look at the stars in the sky and relax. And then, yeah, also, like, be in a modern sleeping situation. Because, you know, I'm I'm too old for this camping business. I love camping. I'm getting too old for that. It's okay. We can enjoy nature and modern plumbing at the same time. Once you arrive, I take care of everything for you.
Patricia Sung [00:26:44]:
I take care of all the food. You don't have to cook. You don't have to clean. You don't have to worry about anything. You just get to enjoy and relax, hang out, and have great conversations. One of the things that always makes us laugh and when we're there is, like, we dive right into the deep stuff. Like, all of us have ADHD or suspect that we have ADHD. Like, you don't have to have an official diagnosis to come because, like, if you resonate with what I'm doing, like, let's be real here.
Patricia Sung [00:27:08]:
Chances are you have ADHD or you're somehow neurospicy in some way. If you think I'm funny and you think I'm relatable, welcome to the family. Like, you don't have to have a piece of paper that tells you you are valid to be here. All moms who suspect that they might have ADHD are welcome, And you're with people who get it. Most of us have kids who are also neurospicy. And we can talk through these things with people who get it and aren't gonna be like, well, why don't you just know everyone here is like, hey, I get it. This is hard. I got some ideas if you want some, but nobody's here shaming you for what you're doing because we get it.
Patricia Sung [00:27:43]:
And building those relationships and having time to spend with people who understand you at the core level immediately is just such a sigh of relief. And then on Saturday, we're diving in and doing coaching, and we're talking about how do we understand our ADHD and how do we understand ourselves better so that we can love ourselves even in those moments where we feel too much. But I want you to have a weekend to be able to take care of you. To relax and breathe and not worry about the clock and what has to get done. You just get to worry about you. And having that forty eight hours of no responsibility and no pressure is such a lift on your spirit and gives you so much capacity. As much as you know how much you're doing, I really think that as moms, we don't realize how much we are doing because we're so busy and we're doing all the things that when you have a two whole days to just well, I guess, three three because it's Friday, Saturday, Sunday. Like, when you get that time to just worry about you, you get, like, this glimpse back into who you were before kids and that peacefulness and, like, the lack of responsibility that you had before you cared for somebody twenty four seven.
Patricia Sung [00:28:58]:
And you get this glimpse of that, and you remember who you are. And it's this breath of fresh air to be like, oh, right. Me, I'm still a person, and I matter. Every time the moms leave and they're like, this weekend away was such a gift. And, like, they go through the whole next week just on cloud nine, like, realizing, like, I needed that. I needed that time to care for me. Because you do so much for everyone else, and I want you to have a weekend where somebody is just taking care of you, and you don't have to worry about anything. You get to learn about your ADHD and helping understand yourself better, and that's what it brings us to accepting ourselves and loving ourselves more.
Patricia Sung [00:29:36]:
And being in community with other moms who also are dealing with similar stuff, like, that also helps us know that, like, there's not something wrong with me. Like, this is a thing that lots of people deal with, and it's so much easier to deal with problems when we know that it's not you. It's not me. I'm not the problem. It gives so much grace when you get to feel seen and heard. And this group of moms is just so welcoming and so loving. I adore them so much, and, I want you to have a piece of that too. Like, I want you to be there.
Patricia Sung [00:30:09]:
And then Saturday evening, we just hang out, and we talk, and we enjoy each other's company, and have wonderful conversations. And then on Sunday morning, we'll have breakfast there, and you can head on your way and enjoy the rest of your week. This is a beautiful weekend together, and I cannot wait to spend it with you. So go get your ticket at patriciasung.com/retreat. Again, that's patriciasung.com/retreat. Now if you are listening to this before the May, you can grab your early bird ticket, and early bird tickets come with some bonuses. Number one, there's a shrinking payment plan available. You can spread your payments out farther when you sign up earlier.
Patricia Sung [00:30:49]:
There's no extra charge for that. Two, you get to choose your room. Currently, there are four standard tiny homes called the Bijou available and four deluxe tiny homes available. So get your room now so you get first dibs on the type of tiny home that you want to stay in. Number three, everyone who buys an early bird ticket is invited to a bonus group coaching session over the weekend. Here, we can dive into the specifics of what you're struggling with and identify what you want to work on going forward so that you leave the weekend feeling even more confident. And then four, obviously, you get to look forward to this trip all summer long. And if you are listening to this after June 1, still come grab your ticket because we are gonna have an amazing weekend together, and you still wanna look forward to this trip for the rest of the summer.
Patricia Sung [00:31:31]:
I cannot wait to hang out with you in October. I'll talk to you soon, Successful Mama.
Patricia Sung [00:31:37]:
For more resources, classes, and community, head over to my website, motherhoodinadhd.com.